Varför känner igen behov och värderingar är viktiga i relationer?

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Samarbeta vs. Konkurrerande: Att arbeta tillsammans mot avtalet

Samarbeta vs. Konkurrerande: Att arbeta tillsammans mot avtaletPrecis som Colorado aspar eller jätte Kalifornien Redwoods behöver varandra för stöd och för att överleva, så gör folk. Science bestyrker nu vad vi intuitivt vet: Det känns bra att vara en del av ett lagarbete. När du har ett gemensamt mål kan du gå till högre höjder av kreativitet och framgång.

Ancient Knowledge Guidance: New Archetypes For A New World

Ancient Knowledge Gives Guidance: New Archetypes For A New WorldTraditional Native American societies may be the best models of balanced societies in existence today—with only about 500 years of European contact and assimilation, versus 2,000 years. Native people viewed themselves—not their political, social, or reli­gious lives—as individuals. The names that Native groups gave themselves generally translated to “the People” or “human beings.”

You Never Need to Defend or Justify Your Feelings

You Never Need to Defend or Justify Your FeelingsSomeone once gave Barry and I a small yellow button to wear that says, “You never need to defend or justify your feelings.” I love the message on this button and, though I don’t wear it, I keep it in my desk so it is the first thing I see when I open the drawer. This little message has helped me over and over again...

4 Reasons People Can’t Quite Quit Facebook

fac4 Reasons People Can’t Quite Quit FacebookIf you’ve ever thought about quitting Facebook, you’re not alone. Maybe you’ve even shut down your account, swearing never to return, only to log back in a week later.

Don't Kill the Messenger... Pay Attention to the Message

Don't Kill the Messenger... Pay Attention to the MessageMany of our "life lessons" come to us through what we might usually call a "negative" experience, or possibly a "negative" person in our life. However, the addition of the term negative to any person or situation is simply a perception, or a judgment, on our part.

What To Do If You’re Around Blamers and Criticizers

What To Do If You’re Around Blamers and CriticizersChances are you’ve seen and heard an emotional manipulator at work. Perhaps you even live or work with someone who regularly pulls out their blame gun and sprays accusations on everyone but themselves. They get angry and indignant and go on and on about how stupid, ineffective, or lame others are.

Shyness Reduction Techniques: Give Yourself the Gift of Human Interaction

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Taking Inventory of Your Communication and Control Patterns

Taking Inventory of Your Communication and Control PatternsIt’s really important to be able to name your control patterns and fear buttons and accept them as part of the human condition. Each item in the list below describes a behavior. Identifying the behaviors that you exhibit will help you notice when you are using a control pattern. Then you can choose your response rather than reacting automatically.

How Talking To Yourself Can Save Your Marriage

How Talking To Yourself Can Save Your MarriageFor a good marriage, who is the most important person with whom you should be communicating well? If you think it’s your spouse, think again. The most important person to converse with constructively is yourself! You need not try to resolve every situation by talking it over with your partner.

The Great Quest for Truth: Seeing Beyond Appearances

The Great Quest for Truth: Seeing Beyond AppearancesWhat keeps us prisoners of our illusions? Our assumptions—the things we believe are true that really are not. For example, on my way to work during rush hour, a guy in a Lexus speeds by, cuts in front of me, then weaves in and out of traffic at a hundred miles an hour. My first reaction is...

Medveten Kommunikation: inte reagerar från en rädslobaserade Mentalitet

Medveten kommunikation: Att lära att inte reagera från en rädslobaserade MentalitetSom människor, kan den största gåvan vi har till vårt förfogande också vara den största vapen-ord. Vi kan läka oss själva, andra och världen med ord; men de kan också användas på ett destruktivt sätt. De flesta av oss är omedvetna om att det sätt på vilket vi avser är helt förvrängd och onaturligt.

The Secret to Good Relationships is Healthy Boundaries

The Secret to Good Relationships is Healthy BoundariesIf we want to make the world a better place, we need to work on having healthy boundaries! And by this I mean… we understand that I am me and you are you and that each of us has a right to be here and to choose and experience the consequences of all our thoughts, words and actions.

Babies Know A Bully When They See One

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Mastering The Art of Learning To Communicate Effectively & Consciously

Mastering The Art of Learning To Communicate Effectively & ConsciouslyI don’t believe we ever “master” the art of learning to communicate effectively. But we do get more skilled at witnessing ourselves and making new choices. One note of caution: Speaking your truth does not mean you always say everything you are thinking.